It seems that everywhere I go parents don't want to watch their children. I've been observing this since before Lil J was even mobile. I kept wondering about it. When I ask hubby (who has 2 grown kids already, so he has plenty of experience) he would agree with me & say that he felt it was wrong.
I can remember being at someone's house & no one watching the kids & one of the kids was sharing their desert with the dog!! (eeecccckkkkk!!!) It was one bite for the kid & one bite for the dog (yes, the same spoon!) & on & on it went.
I've been to houses where kids are pushing other kids around (both where it's been done with bad intentions & where it's been done just because the smaller & slower child is in the way, no bad intentions, but still not nice).
Yesterday was Friday. Every Friday I go to Bible study in the morning at my church & then I take Lil J to a park. So far I go to a different park each time, seeing what each park has to offer. So yesterday we went to a park. There were 2 couples there & 4 kids. The kids were around 4-7 years old I'd say. Much bigger than Lil J. Now ok, maybe they know their own kids & feel comfortable with not watching, just chatting away. But when someone new shows up I would think they would want to pay more attention. But no, they just keep on chatting & ignoring their kids. Now mind you the one kid had a bag of chocolate bunny crackers. He was offering them to Lil J. I had to ask him several times to not do that before the father told him to stop. I explained politely that my son has a lot of food allergies. However, this kid was burying the crackers in the sand at the park & THEN eating them. I suppose maybe the parents are ok with this, but I kinda doubt it. They just aren't paying attention. After being there an hour I was truly exhausted. I didn't go there to watch FIVE kids, I went their to watch my kid. And so I left.
I told Lil J that if the playground at our community club house wasn't crowded we could go & play there for a little while. When we got there there was no one there. Later on a woman came with a 6 year old son. She was the same as me, very attentive to what her son was doing. Her son was very well behaved & was very considerate of Lil J, being that he's so much younger. He even played ball with Lil J for a little while. Thn he moved to the basketball courts with his mom & me & Lil J were alone again for a while & then we headed home.
But I keep wondering why people don't want to watch their kids. While watching Lil J I am teaching him manners & good behavior & what's right & wrong, especially with other kids. These are really important things in my opinion. I'm not at all saying I'm right & others are wrong, but I am wondering WHY they choose to not pay attention to what their kids are doing.
I would love to hear other's thoughts on this. Comment away folk, please.